Women’s Guide : Men’s Point of View
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(Note : this article is written based on interview result with 20 men, so it is not representing all men’s opinion)
Despite the fact that men tend to be practical and simple, there are time when they just cannot explain the reason why they do things the way they do. Here are the three things that are considered to be the nastiest actions taken by men coldheartedly.
The word start with “S”
Men think about sex most of the time. With the fact that women population is far greater then men, men are faced with numerous options/variations for women. Sometimes when the variations of women they met are certainly not their type, even if she comes in a great package (sexy and beautiful). When he finds out that she is not what he is looking for, he will not just dismiss her. He will just take her for granted. In this matter, men are completely different from women. Women might have some feelings after having a physical contact. While men, they can clearly distinguish whether it is love or just simply sex. They tend to think with their logic than their feelings.
Swaying with the wind (indecisive)
You might be indecisive about choosing your outfit or perhaps shoes. Yet, men are worse, especially when it comes to romance. At the end of the day, women tend to be more stable. Men are unpredictable. When they got carried away, they tend to say or do something that they might regret. In that case, he will just fix it in his own way without even considering his spouse’s feeling (in term of romance). Whether you like it or not, that’s the fact.
Idol-Mania
Even men feel great when he has a lot of fans. Some of them will do things deliberately to maintain their fans. The point is they kind of enjoy the feeling of being chased or admired by women. Sometimes, they even play hard to get with women just to keep women wondering about them. Despite the fact that he has a slight feeling toward her, he will not let her see it. As women have the tendency to raise her hope high, this will cause men to lose his “like” feeling toward her and turn into dislike. That’s why men generally find it hard to show his true feeling toward the woman he likes. As his ego always comes first than his feelings, men believe that there are certain prides when women like them. It is what they called pride, dignity, and achievement that they should be proud of.
First, the issue on “sex”. As talking and expressing emotions; is intimacy to women sex is intimacy to men. The idea, is for both parties to “teach” one another.
Indecisive well, that works “both” ways. Men and women are both that way.
Idol-mania that too, works both ways.
I think the article is largely wrong.
When a man decides that a woman isn’t right for him or that it was just sex, and she thinks they’re having a relationship, and he realizes that but doesn’t break it off just yet, in my experience he’s usually looking for a polite way to break it off without hurting her feelings more than necessary. He may fail to figure out how, and end up hurting her feelings more than necessary, but most guys don’t string women along just for sex. And, I think it’s nonsense that guys feel there’s a huge pool of women to choose from: most guys tell me they think a good woman is difficult to find, and a good woman who is available and interested in him is nearly impossible to find, so unless they really were just looking for sex, they tend to take things fairly seriously.
Guys may seem unpredictable to women, but that’s just because the women in question don’t really know what’s going on in their guy’s head. In general, guys tend to have fairly defined reasons for why they stay in or break off a relationship: if it seems random to you, it’s probably that he just hasn’t felt like revealing his reasons.
And sure, guys like being idolized, and for the small percentage of guys who are used to being admired by many women perhaps there might be some wistfulness to going “off the market” to settle down, but most guys feel that they’re just another guy and don’t really understand much about why a specific woman would want them over any other guy, and don’t think there are any significant number of women admiring them on a regular basis.
Guys do not “lose their like” toward women who get their hopes high: guys get scared by women who get their hopes too high too fast, and make it too obvious. Yeah, guys know that when they start dating a woman (not just sex), she’s thinking about marriage and maybe children, but there’s a difference between her thinking about it, and eventually choosing to discuss it with him after they know each other better, versus her starting to talk on the second date about what their kids will look like and what they should name them.
It has become fairly common in the last decade or so that just as many guys are reaching their late 20’s and feeling like darn it they should settle down, they start having dates with women who, after only a couple months of dating, lay out an ultimatum telling the man that he has only a limited amount of time to propose, followed by a short engagement, children immediately, and he must provide an income of a minimum amount so they can afford the requisite house and for her to be home long enough with each child, etc. When a guy hears this expressed this way, he gets the feeling that the girl he’s dating is a psychopath who wants him only as sperm donor and paycheck, and that she isn’t interested in him at all but rather only what she can get out of him… so he gets visions of the ugly divorce and alimony checks spinning in his head, and runs screaming. And all his friends will encourage him to do so.
A woman who wants to have high hopes about a guy should try dating him for a month or two, then ask what his long term goals are, if he hasn’t spelled it out by then. Sure, she has a right to know, but by asking instead of blurting it out, she can do it in a non scary manner. If his answers seem satisfactory, great, she should tell him that’s compatible with your wishes, drop it and enjoy the relationship for a while. If not, then she should have a frank talk about whether or not the two of them are compatible for a long term relationship, being honest that her goals are different. If she’s feeling that her biological clock is ticking… she should keep in mind that guys don’t have the urgency to have children right away (even when we really do want them), so if she tries to force a guy into rushing things because she wants children, to him it will sound like “it’s all about me, me, me! My house! My kids! My money!” and if he’s smart, he’ll run.
Insightful Tom - I agree with the My house, My kids, My Money,
As a guy you get the feeling that it won’t work beacuse she doesn’t love you - she loves the idea of your future together. And that will never stand the test of time - And then you heart gets broken again.